If you are continually fighting with your ex, take a hard-look at what is truly important in your life, because it’s not your children.  Chances are you know of a divorced couple who no matter the circumstances, can’t put on their big-kid pants and suck-it-up for their kid’s sake.  No matter how long it’s been since the ink has dried on their divorce papers, they hold on to the hurt and anger, refusing to move on. They suffer, their children suffer, and everyone around them suffers because of it.

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Too many children of divorce live in the midst of constant parental battle.  They have to witness the ongoing fighting, abuse, and toxic discord between the two people that they likely love the most.  They are forced to question their loyalties, their emotions, and their own parent’s character. Because their parents weren’t willing to put them first, they face a future filled with anxiety, confusion, and self-doubt.

Just how willing are you to put your children first?  Are you really willing to do what it takes to be a provider for your children?  I’m not talking about a provider in the financial sense either, that’s the easy part.  How willing are you to provide your children the love, reassurance, guidance, structure, and discipline they need to thrive?  How willing are you to be the best character example you can be? What are you willing to sacrifice so your children don’t have to?  Are you really willing to put your children first? Have no doubt that you can do it, because if my ex and I could, you undoubtedly can too.

Continue Reading – Chapter 2: Keep the Family Together After Divorce